Leaving the Cave
July 15, 2022
I find myself relating to the dad in The Croods movie, a cave man named Grug. Like me, he loves telling stories and like my family, his family puts up with listening to them. But all of his tales warn of children who left the safety of the cave, or did not listen to their […]
Eric Church / Grug / Ozark Boys Camp / The Croods
Why Isn’t Independence Day Always on a Monday?
July 9, 2022
I hope you all had a nice Independence Day weekend. If I were making the rules, Independence Day would always be the first Monday in July. Actually, I would change the entire calendar. The way our current 7-days-a-week, 365.25-days-a-year calendar is set up, holidays with dates just don’t make sense for working people. Memorial Day […]
BGE / Big Green Egg
Failing at Retirement – Parts One and Two
June 30, 2022
I have loved not working. Transitioning from a 60 to 80-hour work week to a 0-hour work week was easier than I ever imagined. I have rested, lost weight and become healthier overall, organized my life, increased my time spent on hobbies I love, and avoided being such a pain that my wife wanted me […]
El Segundo Unified School District / ESUSD / PYLUSD / retirement / top
Stop Me If You’ve Heard This One Before
June 24, 2022
Why do I write these blog posts? There are many reasons. I do love telling stories. One of my beliefs as a parent is that stories create memories. By telling and retelling stories to our children, they become their memories that will shape them or make them smile throughout their lives. My stories become their […]
Hot, Humid, and Home
June 16, 2022
Who says you can’t go home? Jon Bon Jovi sang it, but only as a way to prove that you can. What a fascinating career Bon Jovi had – A Rock and Roll Hall of Famer, actor (he had a great role on The West Wing), and the first rock artist to ever top the […]
Arkansas / Bon Jovi / Darius Rucker / family dinner / Home / Parents / Waynes' World
Big Rocks
June 9, 2022
Thanks for your comments on last week’s post on procrastination. Clearly my journey has been shared by many of you. I decided to re-read the 1994 book from Steven Covey that I mentioned last week – First Things First. I still love Covey’s folksy, sometimes corny, but always insightful and spot-on writing, so I am […]
Big Rocks / Covey / First Things First / Malibu Brewing Company / Quadrant 2 / Steven Covey
This Post Was Finished a Week Early!
June 2, 2022
I’m WAY less of a procrastinator than I used to be, but I wish I would have started training earlier for our bike trip this summer. When I was in middle school, I had serious procrastination issues. My science teacher once guided us through a science project for weeks. I remember coming home from school […]
Bike Trip / Checklist Manifesto / GTD / Procrastination / Steven Covey
The Invisible Flag Waves Again
May 27, 2022
Flags across the nation are at half-mast. Again. The proper way to put a flag at half-mast is to first raise it all the way to the top, then to pause and bring it back down. The explanation I like best for this tradition is that we bring it down to make room for “the […]
Stop Yelling at the Fruit!
May 19, 2022
“Enough with the fruit already!” That’s what my friend Peter yelled at me while we were golfing last week. I had just bitten into my 2nd apple of the round as I was walking down the 12th hole fairway at the beautiful Soule Park Golf Course. I looked at him with his Diet Coke in […]
AA / Blue Zones / Noom / principalchef.com / Vegetarian
Family, Friends, Community
May 14, 2022
Thanks to all of you who read my last post on my son Sean. I keep track of how many people open each of my weekly posts, and the readership about Sean crushed everything else I’ve ever written. Your comments and emails were powerful and comforting. As good as it felt to write about it, […]
Blue Zones / Dan Buettner / family dinner / Sean Matthews
Sean
May 4, 2022
Gravity feels a little more forceful today. Back in my high school physics class, Father Fred taught us that gravity pulls us down at a rate of 9.8 meters per second squared. Today feels like a double-digit day. It’s harder to do just about everything. You see, today would have been my son Sean’s 29th […]
Compassionate Friends / Gyorgy / Melancolie / Sandy Casey / Sean Michael Matthews / top
In Search of Downshifting, or How to Be More Like My Dogs
April 28, 2022
My first two posts in this series on living a long and healthy life focused on moving naturally throughout the day and holding a strong sense of purpose. This week and for Part 3 of this series, I am focusing on downshifting. The Blue Zones research suggests that people in the longest living societies find […]
Blue Zones / retirement / Sleep / Superintendent / Teaching
Is Retirement the Life for Me? (Part 2)
April 23, 2022
First of all, thank to all of you who read and commented on my last post via Facebook, Twitter, and the Blog Site. I love the conversation and I appreciate the wisdom even more. This is Post #2 of Evaluating my Quasi-Retired Life using Dan Buettner’s Blue Zones research. As a reminder, the nine Blue […]
Ben Dale / Blue Zones / Dan Buettner / Fear of Retirement / Purpose / retirement
Is Retirement the Life for Me?
April 16, 2022
If you started singing the theme song from Green Acres when you saw that title, you may (1) way too impacted by afternoon tv in the 1970s, and (2) also be considering this question. August 31 was my last official day at work in my job as a school superintendent. For almost eight months, I […]
Animal House / retirement / Sitting is the New Smoking / street musician / Superintendent / top
Hawaii – Go for the Beauty, Stay for the Games
April 7, 2022
Jill and I returned home today from our Hawaiian vacation. I’m a big fan of our 50th state. If I feel far away from reality when I’m 26 miles across the sea on Catalina Island, imagine how distant I feel in Hawaii! Really distant is the answer. Even in quasi-retirement, being home means routines and […]
Cornhole / cribbage / Crud / Dodge Ram 1500 / Golf / Hawaii / Honda Ridgeline / Nothing but net / Ping Pong
Movies I Watch Again and Again
March 31, 2022
We watched the Oscars on Sunday night. With my newfound time, I actually had the opportunity to watch most of the nominated movies this year. I loved CODA, and I was pleasantly surprised to see it win. Don’t Look Up was one of the funniest movies I’ve seen in a while, but I thought that […]
The College Kid Comes Home
March 24, 2022
Alternate Title: Parents and Tasmanian Devils Can Peacefully Coexist Our youngest son, Dawson, came home from college this weekend. It’s Spring Break, and he is in town for 10 days. Jill, Duffy and Maggie Mae (our Scottish Terriers), and I are thrilled to have him home. My good friend Chris Erskine wrote about his son, […]
Chris Erskine / Parenting / Scottish Terriers / Spring Break / Tasmanian Devils
Beware the Ides of March (Minus Two)
March 16, 2022
March 15 is the Ides of March. The phrase ‘Beware the Ides of March’ is yet another Shakespeare quote still in our lives, made famous as a fortune teller’s warning to Julius Caesar about his impending death. I’ve been in a hilarious email exchange this week with about 20 high school classmates, reminiscing about our […]
Birthday / Catholic High School / COVID / COVID-19 / Ides of March / Little Rock Catholic High School / MBUSD / Superintendent
The Pursuit of Well-Being
March 9, 2022
I’m a big fan of pursuing happiness. Aristotle even said that doing so was the meaning of life, so I’m in decent company. I know that there are a million ways to define happiness, and that you don’t have to be smiling-laughing-giddy in order to be happy. That’s why many people are moving from the […]
depression / flourish / happiness / martin seligman / nadine burke harris / quarantine questions / questlove / shashank joshi / suicide / well-being
Thoughts on Ukraine – The World is Changing Right Before Our Eyes
March 3, 2022
I didn’t think I’d see it in my lifetime. Russia has invaded Ukraine, and as of the time of this writing, there is a fierce battle waging for the survival of this new and yet not new nation. I have to admit, I did not know much about Ukraine before last week. I knew it […]
Teaching History / Ukraine
Paying it Forward
February 25, 2022
The best gift any teacher can receive is words of appreciation from their students, from the parents of their students, or from a site administrator. I remember being a principal and walking into the room of one of a truly wonderful teacher. This teacher was loved by his students and by the community. Like most […]
Copy Room Conversations / Gratitude / Mike Matthews / Nicole Lusiani / Paying it Forward / San Lorenzo High School
Lemons, Limes, Love, and Loss
February 17, 2022
We lost our lime tree this month. It was a beautiful and bountiful tree in our front yard that was part of our lives for about 10 years. As a boy from Arkansas, having citrus trees in our yard is still a wonder that I NEVER take for granted. We have lemon trees, a tangerine […]
Giving Tree / Lemons / Limes / Woolsey Fire
Sing It With Me! Don’t Let the Old Man In
February 3, 2022
I was talking to my friend Kevin last week. Kevin and I have ventured through our public education careers with similar jobs as teachers, high school principals, and finally as superintendents. He has been a mentor and a friend for over 30 years, and I truly appreciate our bond and understanding of one another. Kevin […]
aging / cathy applefeld olson / chris crowley / clint eastwood / don't let the old man in / eric charbonneau / in-n-out / perpetual youth / retirement / Risky Business / the mule / toby keith / top / younger next year
Lend Me Your Ear and I’ll Sing You a Song . . .
January 21, 2022
The great thing about Los Angeles is that it has everything you could ever want in terms of culture, sports, food, entertainment, and beauty. The lousy thing about LA is that if you have to go anywhere during rush hour or on the weekend, traffic can be b-r-u-t-a-l. That’s especially true if you live where […]